Mom and Daughter Have Baby by Same Man

Gem77bbg

21/04/2016 at 9:52 pm

I am posting this on behalf of a very good friend.

My friend is 26, last year she went on holiday to Spain and really hit it off with a guy over there. She spent most of her vacation with him. A couple of weeks ago he came over here to see her and stayed the week at her house which she half owns with her mother, she's 46.
He went back to Spain and she was all loved up hoping he was gonna be the one for her. However her mother sat her down on Monday and told her she was pregnant, my friend was excited for her until she told her she'd slept with her bf while he was here and the baby is his. A couple of texts off my friend to this guy revealed that he did indeed do her mother and that he was sorry?!?!
Fast forward to today when my friend rocks up on my doorstep first thing and tells me all this and produces a pregnancy test of hers that says positive. She did another at mine - also positive.
So they are both pregnant by this prick and roughly the same amount of time along cos he was only here for a week!!
My friend is an only child who never had a father so she really needs her mum as its her first baby. But she's really betrayed her. I'm running out of things to say and wondering if anyone on here has any advice on how to move things forward from here?

Andrew B(42)

21/04/2016 at 10:51 pm

Sorry but she must be devastated.

I can only say time heals but her mother should be shot (figuratively) followed by the BF.

Abi58zzc

22/04/2016 at 12:19 am

This is Jeremy Kyle material. I don't know how you work through that. All I could suggest is going to family counselling together to allow both parties to air their hurt and worries and move forward from there.

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Jul47hsv

22/04/2016 at 5:31 am

wow what a scumbag and how stressful for the daughter, and I suppose mother too.....

ok so how far along are they both? is it really bad of me to say that perhaps the mothers pregnancy is at higher risk of miscarriage at 46? (don't shoot me for saying that!!)

Just try to be there for your friend as much as you possibly can, I hope her and her mum can work through this and support each other, yes her mum has done wrong sleeping with the bloke but she will also get shat on by this man too, they do need to be there for each other.

Jo M(21)

22/04/2016 at 6:20 am

Given the pair of them both had unprotected sex with a virtual stranger, the first port of call would be to get tested.

I was hoping it was a wind up, both not using contraception with a man they know nothing about and both happened to get pregnant in the space of a week. How irresponsible.

Christopher U(3)

22/04/2016 at 6:54 am

I don't normally don't suggest such drastic action, but I'd suggest they both get an abortion and move to opposite ends of the country - or at least far away enough so that they risk having to see each other.

Perhaps with time things will heal. But I can think of few things worse than a mother can do to a daughter...

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Ast48gnn

22/04/2016 at 7:10 am

I would get checked for STI too. Yikes.

Lul83flh

22/04/2016 at 7:17 am

Just. Wow.

Definitely advise getting tested!

I'd hope they can say "okay, he's screwed us both over here" and be there for each other...to be having a baby without your mum there must be hard, but I'd imagine a million times worse knowing your own mother is carrying your babys sibling

Chi78eeq

22/04/2016 at 7:18 am

In answer to

Christopher U(3)

I don't normally don't suggest such drastic action, but I'd suggest they both get an abortion and move to opposite ends of the country - or at least far away enough so that they risk having to see each other.

Perhaps with time things will heal. But I can think of few things worse than a mother can do to a daughter...

Honestly I never suggested this before, but if the mother had a loving bone into her she would have got the abortion without saying anything and took her secret to the grave! She certainly won't have any kind of relationship with her daughter now in any case!

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Louise C(1855)

22/04/2016 at 7:21 am

Honestly I never suggested this before, but if the mother had a loving bone into her she would have got the abortion without saying anything and took her secret to the grave! She certainly won't have any kind of relationship with her daughter now in any case!

I was also thinking this. Absolutely disgusting what her mother has done, I don't think I'd ever be able to talk to my Mum again if it was me in this situation.

Ush18xue

22/04/2016 at 7:31 am

Oh crikey!!
Can't add anything different, but please tell both mum and daughter to get tested, if he's willing to sleep with a mother and daughter, God knows who else he has been sleeping with!!! What a k***!!!!

And yes as for the mother, I hope she realises what's she's done, maybe have ruined her relationship with her daughter forever!

Gem77bbg

22/04/2016 at 7:39 am

The bf has told my friend that he wants nothing more to do with her and neither baby either! Bloody cheek. As if she'd want him around!
Im guessing they are both about 6 weeks as it was about 2wks ago he was here?
I told her to get tested last year when she came back from Spain, which she did and was fine but I reiterated that point again yesterday.
She's heartbroken understandably. I don't know how her mum could do this. Whats more is they were very close and had a really good relationship up until this.

Christopher U(3)

22/04/2016 at 8:43 am

Honestly I never suggested this before, but if the mother had a loving bone into her she would have got the abortion without saying anything and took her secret to the grave! She certainly won't have any kind of relationship with her daughter now in any case!

That's what I'd have done if it was me too...

The betrayal of the act is one thing, but I think this really is one of the very few instances where honesty was not the best policy... Cannot understand what the mum was hoping to achieve by telling the daughter.

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Claire A(912)

22/04/2016 at 8:59 am

OP does your friend & her mum want to keep their babies??

Lou73wjl

22/04/2016 at 11:10 am

What a horrible mother!! How on earth could her daughter forgive her? The man is clearly a vile rat but the mother actually has sex with her daughter's boyfriend?
I am anti-abortion but in this case I think that's what the mother should do!

Mom and Daughter Have Baby by Same Man

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